i hated having to do this to my friend. but sometimes...it just comes down to being honest...and unfortunately throwing out your cares in order to hold onto a friendship....here's the email i sent to misti...
misti,
ok...i'm going to try and write this...because talking on the phone with you...just kind of goes round and round...
i care about you as a friend. i wouldn't be all over you with this whole clinton situation, if i didn't care about you ALOT. if i didn't care about you a bit, i'd be like, hey have fun with that guy, see ya, bye!
i hear the tone in your voice change, to a tone i've never heard of. the only other time i've heard your voice change like that is when you talk about brent. and thats how your voice sounds like when you talk about clinton and portland, and when things are going not so well.
do you want me to back off? do you want me to not care? do you want to me to just drop the whole clinton situation?
i can stop caring if you really want me to, because at this point, its really getting to the point where it seems like you want me to.
i don't know how you can possibly validate the things he does to you, how you can ok all those things and respond with "but he does so much for me"
so i guess you deserve the things he does to you? you don't, but thats what your essentially saying to me when you say those things.
so what i'm trying to say is, if the way i come off about this whole thing is bothering you, then just say the word, and i'll just stop. i can see this little ridge/ravine/crevasse breaking down into our friendship, and if it means me having to stop saying the things that i think you need to hear in order for our friendship to be ok, then i guess i'll do it.
i'm not talking to you like a little kid, because i respect you alot as a person, and i know you have alot of potential, don't think this email was easy for me to write, because it wasn't. i wrote this out, because like i said, our phone conversations tend to go round and round.
so just tell me honestly....if you want me to drop this whole clinton thing...because unlike him, i respect your wishes enough to do this, to let go of my cares and worries and all of those things i have for you...when it comes to him....
danielle
loves
music [if it was a religion, i'd already be a member]. chuck palahniuk and haruki murakami books. my cat gwen. my dell dj. my family. my friends. trent reznor & NIN. gwen stefani.
hates
people who focus way too much time on being thin. people who aren't obsessive about music. homophobes. close-minded people.